Have you ever wondered how you feel during the holiday season? What are the key aspects that spruce up in your mind? Maybe the thrill of waking up before everyone else to check the gifts or sipping hot chocolate by the fireplace with your mom and dad. Whatever your memories were, there’s no denying that for you it was the perfect time of the year. Have you ever reflected on the importance of shared memories and the light they cast on relationships? They certainly enrich lives.
MEMORIES
So, what in your POV is a memory? Memory is the brain’s ability to translate, store and retrieve information. It is the way the brain documents experiences for future actions. Memories shape us, without them we would struggle to accumulate new information, form long-term associations, or maneuver through daily lives.
Memories mean the world because they are the exclusive territory of the people who have created them. It is this distinction of shared memories that close friends enjoy their inside jokes which make no sense to others.
One thing is for sure; we never lose the ones we love, not even to death. They continue to be a part of every event of our life, be they through decisions or thoughts. The love that we shared with them leaves an indelible impact on us. We feel at peace knowing that our lives are enriched by having shared our love with them.
MEMORIES AND RELATIONSHIPS
Every person is born unique and has his way of connecting with us. We run into all sorts of events regularly, some are humorous and some aren’t. These moments familiarize us with each other and develop a feeling of togetherness. Memories stir up emotions of warmth and happiness and also remind us why relationships are so important to us.
Lets us discover some ways to plan and create new memories to cherish them for eternity.
– Start new traditions.
Anytime you start something new you are creating innovation. This novelty brings uniqueness to your life and thus helps in forming new memories. The more meaningful or fun the event is, the more memorable it will be in our minds. By trying new things with someone, we reinforce the learning process and also have someone with whom we can share the unique experience.
It’s a healthy activity to set traditions for your family or your home as this is a discreet way of creating memories.
-Make conscious efforts for creating memories.
If we don’t pay heed, we begin to lose the charm in our lives, heading towards a monotonous one. Hence we should make a conscious effort to mark calendars and spend joyous moments with loved ones. This is also an act of self-care. Plan time with them, laugh together, enjoy a good dinner, tell jokes, and just have a life. Such things last forever. Nobody can take away the goodness attached to these memories and the warmth you felt around loved ones.
We should spend time wisely so when we get old, we have a vast collection of vivid memories.
– Plan joyful moments.
Many of us don’t lead our lives, we merely accept them. We should instead choose a life worthy of remembering. You can plan events to celebrate the valuable moments that mean much to you.
Travel when possible as it’s the best way to create unique memories that can be remembered long after you return home. Planning such activities will help you consciously create a desirable life. Travel is also a way to transport yourself out of everyday routine and create memories with the ones you love.
-Stick together during rough days to create stronger bonds.
When people struggle together and overcome, they help create a lasting impression on the memories. Hence people that withstand our troubling times with us carve an essential place in our life stories.
Several times people have reached out to us and helped us overcome the obstacles at work or in other areas of our lives. These connections help strengthen our bonding with them.
– Be present at the moment to create memories.
We all know that events happen in the present moment. Therefore memories are created only in the present moment. What happens is we miss on sweet details of life due to our lost focus on what’s happening around us.
– Collect evidence of the events.
Click pictures, write journals, buy souvenirs so that you have keepsakes to keep the memories alive. These physical reminders instigate the memories of loved ones and happy moments we spent with them.
– Let go of grudges.
We spend a major chunk of life with people close to us and take this time for granted. Arguing over petty issues and getting mad instead of forgetting and forgiving the things they do. Since we don’t forget easily, this harbors differences and creates friction.
Don’t be the person that nobody likes because you are always mad about something that happened 20 years ago. Believe it or not, you will regret it at a later stage in life. Learn to forget especially when it comes to family and friends. At the end of the day, we only have a few relatives and genuine friends that we can connect to and are happy with, so don’t ruin that by holding a grudge for something that won’t matter in a few years.
– Share your good memories.
Memories hold people together. While conversing with loved ones, revisit the fond memories you created with them. Talk about those stories and recall the humor in them as this will enliven them and allow us to connect with those magical moments once again. The worst part of memories isn’t the pain associated with them but the lack of someone to share them with.
-Message for Parents:
There is one very important reason why memories are good. They tend to produce positivity and make us happy once we remember them. When you feel sad about someone who, unfortunately, is no longer here, just remember the good times you’ve had with that person and remember how happy he or she was when you were together. I bet that will put a smile on your face and will make you fulfill that you’ve spent quality time with them. It’s way better to be happy that you’ve been with someone than to regret that you weren’t.
Parents should pay attention to creating memories more than others. We are all aware that kids grow up fast and by the time we are aware, they’ve moved out from the house, have their own family, their kids, and their backyard with a swing.
Record them grow up, take pictures of them goofing around, spend time with them as much as possible, so when they grow up you won’t feel sad that they are no longer around as they used to be. Don’t be sad that they have their own lives, rather try as much as possible to make their childhood special and full of good memories, so they can do the same thing with their kids.
Spending time with your kids is not only good for your memories but also theirs. Remember that parents have the biggest influence on their kids, both positive and negative! Once your kids have grown up with the full capacity of your love and attention and they have a wide variety of good memories, they will be great parents to their kids and they will continue the legacy of making good memories with their kids. So your responsibility for creating good memories is not only for the current moment but also you influence the future generations as well.
Memories for a sound mental health
Memories are good for your body, mind, emotions, and energy as well. Once your life is filled with good things to remember about the past, your future will look bright. If you are filled with negative emotions you will surely not be able to produce positive things in the future. Remember that memories are connected to your mental health, and by having positive memories and creating more positive memories, you are taking good care of your mental health.
We should be more flexible with the things in our lives. Once we start to think in a direction where memories are in the first place and the rest of the negative things come last, we will have a more healthy and productive life.
The most beautiful things are not associated with money or material stuff; they are memories and moments. If you don’t cherish them, they will bypass you.
Take Away
When creating long lasting memories, it is important that we focus on things that matter most in our lives.
Spend quality time with friends and family while doing things we enjoy most. Focus on the positive aspects and disregard the negativity. We need to be aware that everyone in this world is here for a certain amount of time and we don’t have an eternity to spend with them. When you’re with them, be there fully, as being around and being present are poles apart.
Same is the case with fast friends. We need to make space in our hectic lifestyles for being with our friends as we never know which might be our last cup of coffee with them.
So it’s very important to spend as much time as possible creating good memories with the people we love because they may not last forever, but memories will do.
The most beautiful things are not associated with money; they are memories and moments. If you don’t celebrate those, they can pass you by.
